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Black Feminists and the “Not All Men” Brigade

If you spend as much time on social media as I do, especially in Black spaces, you’ve no doubt see the “battle of the sexes” arguments day in and day out. You’ve seen Black women calling out Black men on their trash behavior and Black men blaming women and “feminist” (pluralization purposely missing) for the Read More

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The Joys of Being A Black Woman *Insert Sarcasm Font*

I recently took a bit of a social media hiatus because of an especially trying week on both Twitter and Facebook. With defenders of Bill Maher saying n*gga and Bill Cosby rape apologists, my soul could bear no more and I had to take a step back. I titled this post what I did because Read More

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I’m Not Strong 

I’d like to push back on a compliment I often get. This isn’t a sort of self deprecating type of post, but a post for clarity. Whenever I share my experience living with a mental illness, I’m routinely told that I am strong. I’m absolutely not. I routinely crumble into a self loathing ball of Read More

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Growing Up Is A Sham

It’s early morning on the Monday of Memorial Day Weekend and I’m in bed nursing an upset stomach. Not because I was out drinking heavily all weekend, not because I have food poisoning, but simply because I’m old. All of the foods I once enjoyed and could eat in copious amounts have all now turned Read More

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For Colored Girls Who Considered A Big Chop When the Curl Enhancing Smoothie Isn’t Enough

So I understand that not everyone is going to be upset or disgusted by the recent Shea Moisture ad. However, don’t try to silence or dismiss those airing very real grievances. This is not at all a new concept, and I’m almost positive one of your fav brands has done something similar. First off let’s Read More

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Endometriosis Awareness Month

Since March is Endometriosis Awareness Month, you may recall that I have been working with #MeInEndo to spread awareness about the disease. If not then you can check out the previous post here. After this blog post a nationwide survey was conducted by HealthyWomen in partnership with AbbVie to better understand how much is known by the Read More

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Walking Into the New Year Like….

Yes. I know I’m late, but some things were happening over the holidays such as my depression kicked my butt and then my MacBook’s screen decided it would like to participate in Mercury retrograde. But I’m back! Ready to go. Ready to be a better me and ready to be a better blogger. I know Read More

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Who Would Have Thought That Travel Is So Divisive?

I’m going to share a post I put on my Facebook page recently after trying to argue with a brick wall, then realizing nobody is paying me to be aggravated, so I stopped. Any who. The argument that “everyone can afford/ is able to travel” has popped up countless times on social media. Always with Read More

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Coping With the Winter/Holiday Blues

This time of year is difficult for many people, for a variety of different reasons. Whether it be because of seasonal affective disorder (SAD), bad memories, being disconnected from family, or a whole host of other reasons. This time of year isn’t exactly “jolly” for all. So I’ve decided to put together a little list Read More

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The First Step Is Always the Hardest

I was recently a guest on The Classick Team-Up podcast and we discussed self-care and a common misconception of it being all bubble baths and spa days. I explored that self-care is often painful because doing what you need isn’t always easy or comfortable. Little did I know that the time following recording this podcast I Read More